Guys, here’s some quick advice that may be of benefit to you right now if you think she’s pregnant:

Do:

  • Listen. The situation involves more than just you. Now you may have three lives to consider.
  • Stay calm. She needs your support now more than ever. She may be carrying the baby, but you are both parents, and regardless of your relationship in the future, your baby needs you, too.
  • Talk about it. Not only with each other, but prepare to talk with your parents and others close to the situation. Sharing the news with people who can genuinely help you can reduce your stress levels as you process everything.
  • Gather all the facts. Get all the information and seek wise counsel so you can make the best decision for both you and your partner.
  • Express yourself honestly. It’s normal to have feelings of anger, frustration, and fear. Sharing those feelings in a constructive way will show her that she is not alone in this situation.

Don’t

  • Don’t walk away. The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.
  • Don’t pressure her. Applying pressure will only push her away, and potentially result in a decision you may both regret. You will do well to work together as a team.
  • Don’t forget. You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input as well as share your thoughts. Your thoughts are valuable and important in making a good decision for you and her.

Clear your mind and listen to what she is saying. Try to understand her feelings too. Gather accurate information about the options available to both of you. Talk to family and friends you trust for honest feedback and support. We are here to provide caring and confidential help for you and your partner.

The first thing you need to do is find out if she is really pregnant, if the pregnancy is viable and learn about your options. Her Health Women’s Center provides confidential pregnancy services, all at no cost to you. We are here to help both of you come to an informed decision. To help show your support, go with her for the pregnancy test appointment. If she truly is pregnant, then she is already coping with hormonal changes that can have a great effect on her. Having your support will reassure her that you care.

Her Health Women’s Center can help you in a variety of ways should she actually be pregnant. We offer a men’s mentoring program and referrals to helpful organizations. You won’t be alone in supporting her through this pregnancy.

Remember the decision is ultimately hers to make. You should be able to express your opinion, but you should never force her into a decision. Our trained support staff can help facilitate a conversation where you can express your opinion in a safe and constructive manner.