“When you know, you just know.” How many times have you heard that before, and thought it unhelpful? When you’re in a relationship, sometimes you just want a few tangible ways to tell if it is on the right track. You want to know if it’s sustaining, if it’s strong, and most importantly, if it’s healthy. Here are 6 signs that you’re in a healthy relationship.
You have the same values.
There’s nothing wrong with having friends who believe in different things than you do, but when it comes to your partner, your values should be aligned. Here’s why: your beliefs and values shape who you are, your daily decisions, and how you view the world. Being with someone who has the same world view provides comfort and stability, as well as allows you to each grow in your values as you talk with one another. It also means you won’t have fundamental clashes in beliefs down the line.
You talk about the future and want similar things.
Healthy relationships move forward. Discussing the future openly and without fear is a good sign of a strong, healthy relationship. Talking about things like if you’d rather live in the country or a city and whether you want kids are important. If you disagree on how your lives will progress together, you should be able to find a compromise or make reasonable sacrifices for each other.
You spend quality time together.
Date nights are great, but it’s also important to pay attention to the smaller things. If you enjoy menial tasks like grocery shopping together, that’s a good sign of a healthy relationship. It’s also important that you make time for what matters to each other, whether that’s spending a Saturday afternoon relaxing or taking the time to visit each other’s family. It’s also a good sign if spending time together is high up on both of your priority lists.
You have mutual respect.
Respect is a big part of a healthy relationship. This means that you each go out of your way to help the other, that you value each other’s opinions and listen to them, and that you do what you say you’ll do. It also means that you don’t knock each other down as a joke or demean each other. You should love each other even in the heat of an argument by not saying hurtful things to one another in anger.
You are completely open with one another and feel safe in being so.
Trust is something that is built overtime. Being with someone who you can talk to knowing that they won’t belittle your feelings or lie to you is a good sign of a healthy relationship. You should be able to talk about anything without embarrassment, awkwardness, uncertainty, or fear of rejection.
You encourage each other to grow.
Being with someone who accepts you as you are is important. Being with someone who accepts you as you are and then encourages you to grow for your benefit is even better. If you are encouraging and supporting each other, whether at the end of a long day or after a huge accomplishment, that’s a good sign of a healthy relationship.
Healthy relationships are built on trust, open communication, and enjoying every day together. There is absolutely no sign of abuse, whether verbal, emotional, or physical. And a healthy relationship takes effort from both sides.